Switching Teams: Is it Possible to Turn Your Straight Crush Gay?
NO!
Okay, now that I’ve gotten that out of the way …
One time or another, every gay person has had a crush on a straight person. Maybe it was an unrequited love sort of thing, crushing on the high school quarterback or the popular cheer leader. Other times it might be a friend or co-worker that you have a great connection with … if only they weren’t straight.
We’ve all played around with the fantasy of somehow “turning” this person gay. Maybe, if this person sees just how great we are, they will be blind to gender and will “switch teams.”
Does that ever happen? In the history of dating has a straight person ever decided to pursue a gay relationship. Yeah, I’m sure that does actually happen from time to time. However, it is so rare that it hardly seems worth the risk, time commitment, and potential for emotional pain and social embarrassment.
More likely, once your feelings are made know, your crush will probably feel awkward and uncomfortable around you. Even the
most gay-friendly of people will feel strange to know that their gay friend, gay co-worker, gay acquaintance, etc is harboring deep feelings for them. They won’t know how to act around you, and most likely it will negatively affect your relationship, if not ruin it completely.
Let’s just say that this person, for some reason, does actually decide to switch teams. Now what? Now you are stuck dealing with someone fresh out of the closet. You will have to deal with all the drama and emotional upheaval of coming out of the closet. And this time, it really is all your fault.
What’s worse is that this person may not even choose to be out of the closet. They most likely will choose to keep whatever is going on a secret, since they are just “experimenting.” And let’s face it, most people who “experiment” are really just on a short visit to Gay Town and have no intention of setting up shop here. Because if they were really gay, they would’ve dealt with it a long time ago. How will you feel when your crush decides to go back to the way things were?
Even if your relationship continues, you will always wonder about your crush’s true feelings. Are they really happy? Are they really gay? Are they going to cheat on your with someone of the opposite sex? You’ll never know for sure.
And lastly, just think about this … would you ever be convinced to be straight? Just like you want people to respect the fact that you are gay, you in turn should respect the fact that other people are straight.
