Gay Rights: What to Do When You Encounter Homophobia

Some people think that whenever anything even remotely homophobic is said, all gays within a 20-yard radius need to pounce immediately.  While other people feel like they can’t be bothered to fight all the hatred and ignorance in the world.  So what

is the correct thing to do?  What should we be doing when we encounter homophobia?

Many gay rights activities believe that by not confronting homophobia, we are merely sending the message that homophobia is acceptable behavior.  Whether you chose to get into a debate or simply walk away is your decision, but as members of the gay community it is our job to stand up for ourselves.

• Don’t let it “just slide.” Your out with friends and someone jokingly calls someone else a “fag,” or you’re at the office and a co-worker makes a derogatory remark.  Even though these insults aren’t aimed at you, they perpetuate ignorance and they ultimately stand in the way of universal acceptance.  You don’t necessarily have to make a scene, but you should make a stand.  It’s okay to say, “you know, I find what you said offensive” or “I don’t appreciate those kinds of remarks.”  You don’t have to be aggressive if you don’t want to be, but it’s important that people know that these types of comments are not okay.

• Try to educate. Many people simple don’t realize that what they are saying or doing is offensive.  As much as you might want to yell and scream and shake some sense into them, it’s best to try to gently educate them instead. Explain why their  comments are insulting to you. Try to explain to them why it’s unAmerican not to have equal rights.  Of course there are people out there that will never agree with you, but there are plenty of reasonable people out there who are open to having their point of view changed.

• Stay calm. There are always situations worth getting worked up over, but usually its best to remain calm.  Even if you get involved in a heated debate, try to keep your cool.  Losing your temper and getting angry doesn’t help the cause.  You’ll get much more respect from the people around you if you always maintain an air of respectability.

• Leave the situation, if need be. There’s no point in staying in a situation in which you are being disrespected.  Don’t let yourself get bullied.  It’s one thing to agree to disagree, but it’s another thing to allow yourself to be insulted.  If you’re not being treated properly, then walk away.  Show people that they need to take these issues seriously, or you may not always be around.